This is as straightforward as it gets:
The cost of success is failure.
Failure is the coin you pay to purchase success. Failure is the means, the method, the mode. Failure is part of the process. In Enjoy the Ride, I wrote about the importance of coming to enjoy the process rather than being hyper-fixated on the destination. And failure is a big part of the reason why: if you focus only on where you’re headed, but fail to accept the challenges that hinder your progress, your success will be iffy at best, if you succeed. It’s another failure, but one that is subtle and insidious.
Accept that you will fail. Accept that you will struggle. All good things worth working toward require a steep learning curve. The path to mastery is not a smooth, paved path. Rather, it is giant iceberg, craggy, cold, hard, and difficult to climb, first to break the surface of competency, and then to reach the peak of mastery. To achieve anything worthwhile, be it a skill, a goal, a functional relationship, takes a willingness to wrestle with and overcome the challenges that rise up in front of you.
Accept that you will fail along the way. In doing so, you will learn to be patient with yourself. You will learn to rise up on your own and overcome the failure. And when you overcome the failure, you will overcome the challenge. But you have to be willing to fail, and fail often, to do the grand thing you want to do, and to do it well.
Success is in the attempt. Attempts are wrought with failure. But you want that. More failure means more coin: more knowledge, deeper understanding, greater competency. And when you’ve accumulated enough coin, you can then purchase the success you’ve so avidly worked toward.
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